Sharing Good News by Design
Have you ever hesitated to share your good news because you didn’t want to make others uncomfortable? Maybe someone is going through a tough time, and you worry that sharing your joy will come off as gloating.
I recently experienced this when I shared some of my wins with a friend who was in the middle of a difficult season. I hesitated, not wanting to add to her stress. But her response surprised me: “Please don’t ever hesitate to share your wins with me. I’m always excited to hear when things are going well for the people I care about.” 💕
That simple message reminded me that real friends want to hear your joys, no matter what they’re going through. It’s okay to share your happiness, even if the other person is facing challenges —it doesn’t take away from their experience.
That said, I’ve also been on the other side of this. Sometimes, I’ve felt the need to downplay my good news or balance the conversation by sharing something less positive. You know, that instinct to "even out" the conversation so it doesn’t feel one-sided? This is a common habit called Story Matching. For example, you might share a promotion, but if your friend is struggling at work, you might feel the need to mention a recent setback just to keep things balanced.
But here’s the thing: you don’t need to balance your joy with someone else’s struggle. Authentic connection doesn’t come from matching their story but from being fully present, celebrating with them, or supporting them with genuine care.
So, the next time you have good news to share, don’t hold back—there’s no need to hesitate. Remember, a meaningful exchange isn’t about matching someone else’s story. It’s about being true to your own experience while staying mindful of the other person’s situation. Genuine connection thrives on presence, respect, and authenticity.
Communication Insight: Sharing Your Wins Through Your Unique Style
Understanding your communication style can help you create more meaningful and authentic connections. In Human Design, there are two main communication styles related to the Throat Center: Adaptable (Open) and Consistent (Defined). Recognizing your style can transform the way you engage with others, especially when sharing your wins.
Adaptable Communicators: You’re someone who easily flows between conversations, adjusting to the mood and energy of those around you. While this flexibility is a strength, you may sometimes feel pressure to speak, even when you’re unsure if it’s the right moment. The best approach? Take a pause. Wait until the pressure subsides (try counting to 10), and speak only when you feel truly inspired or invited. It’s less about filling the silence and more about choosing the right moment to share. When it comes to sharing your wins, trust that your success is worth celebrating. A well-timed message can have an even greater impact, so take a breath and share when it feels natural.
Consistent Communicators: You have a natural ability to speak with clarity and confidence, and people tend to listen closely when you have something to say. However, the challenge can be feeling the need to keep talking, sometimes at the expense of allowing others to contribute. When you’re sharing a win, focus on waiting for a moment when your message can land with the other person fully present. It’s not about holding back, but ensuring your achievement feels fully celebrated—by both you and the person you’re sharing it with. Be mindful of leaving space for others to share their stories as well, creating a more balanced and meaningful conversation.
Which Style Resonates with You?
Which communication style do you resonate with more—Adaptable or Consistent? How does it affect the way you share your wins? Do you find yourself pausing or jumping in?
